The Best Lubricants For Intercourse

Thanks for visiting our site. We're Rod & Helen, a couple of professional sex therapists in a relationship with each other. We tried dozens of lubes - and, yes, we really did use them...what a great job that was! After endless  fun  research, we can now reveal our choice of the best lubricants for women (they're mostly all good for men), as well as explaining which to use if you're expecting a baby or trying to get pregnant, and helping you choose which lubes to use with condoms, or for anal pleasure. Enjoy! Rod & Helen. x

We'd welcome your comments and feedback on what works for you and what doesn't. We'll put your recommendations up here for all to share. Email rod@lubricantsforintercourse.com

Read on to find out which is the best lubricant for intercourse - and remember, lubes are all about having great sex!

OUR SELECTION OF THE BEST LUBES FOR INTERCOURSE

Just in case you want to get your best lube for intercourse right now, without further ado, just click on your chosen link below and go to the product page from our chosen suppliers (needless to say, all very carefully selected).
All these products are SAFE to use internally.

1 The best lubricants for vaginal intercourse without condoms - click below on the links

• Organic lubricants for sex working in harmony with your body
• Lubricants for intercourse containing herbal natural plant extracts like Aloe Vera
• Natural oils - we recommend food grade grape seed oil
• Some pretty slippery artificial lubes (i.e. not oil or plant based compounds)

Notes: The link for "Lubricants containing herbal natural plant extracts" takes you to one of our favorite lubricant products - Aloe Cadabra - at Amazon.com, where it is available for sale. You can also get it from BetterSex.com (search for Aloe Cadabra lubricant.) For the purest natural lubes, we recommend food grade grape seed oil. This does not affect the vaginal tissue and is a great massage oil too! It gives beautiful sex with no vaginal irritation, and real pleasure.

2 The best lubricant for vaginal sex with condoms

3 The best lubricant for anal sex with condoms

4 The best lubricants for anal sex without condoms

5 The best lubricant for making love when trying to conceive - PreSeed lubricant

PreSeed is generally recognized as having least effect on sperm survival and motility.

6 The best lubricant for sex for a pregnant couple

We suggest a water based lube such as Babeland Organic Lubricant.

Want to make sex better? Then get some of the great lubricants for intercourse we recommend above.

By the way, we researched this subject extensively and came up with a few surprises. The most interesting fact is that 25% of couples use lube regularly. In fact, so many couples use lube that we decided to write a short and simple guide to the best lubricants for women (almost any lube is a good lube for men!). We tried them all out ourselves and modified our suggestions based on what we enjoyed and what we didn't!

And remember - slippery sex is fun sex - easy for her, better for him. It doesn't matter why you need a lube - there are probably as many reasons for using it as there are women. Menopause, pregnancy, whatever...it's so easy to add that missing ingredient when a woman's natural moisture needs a little extra help. Whatever you want, whether it's natural, organic, artificial, oily, water based, silicone based, we can help you make a good choice. Read on to find out more about the best lubes for sex. 

What's it all about? Lubricants for intercourse.....why, how, when?

Gone are the days when you had to struggle with greasy and ineffective lubricants for intercourse like Vaseline....an oil based product, which, like other petroleum oil-based products, can damage the lining of the vagina and lead to infection.

Nowadays, there's a whole collection of lubricants for intercourse, including ones made from plant oils, which claim to be natural, work in harmony with your body, and have long lasting properties. Trouble is - in the face of such choice, how do you find the best lubricant for women, or the best product for your particular needs, the one that gives the most enjoyable sensations during sexual intercourse?

It's not easy if you're starting from scratch, so our aim is to try and make the choice easier for you. First of all (remember we are disregarding petroleum oil-based lubes for the reasons given above), the fundamental choice you need to make is between silicone based products, water-soluble products (also known as water-based lubes), and plant oil based lubes.

If you're of the school of thought which believes only "natural" things should go into the vagina, then your choice is restricted to the water-soluble and natural lubricants for intercourse which we describe below.

But if you have an open mind about silicone, you might want to try one of the silicone lubes, simply because they do tend to be longer lasting than the water-soluble ones - the latter may dry out and require refreshing during intercourse. Silicone is also good for sexual activities which simply aren't compatible with water-based lubes - such as sex under water - where a water-based lube will just wash away.

In case this is getting a bit confusing, let's wind back a bit.

We've already established that silicone lubricant for intercourse has the advantage of being long-lasting, and not washing away with ordinary water. So if you're looking for a lube that has a persistent quality, and won't dry out, silicone is probably a good place to start. Because of silicone's long-lasting qualities, it is also good for anal sex, where greater persistence is useful. However, it's advisable not to use silicone lubricants for intercourse in conjunction with sex toys made of silicone, because the lubricant can dissolve the outer surface of the silicone sex toy and make it sticky. One way to get round this problem is to cover your sex toy with a condom before you use it with silicone-based lubricant.

Another advantage of silicone is that it is compatible with latex condoms (although of course the same is true of water-based sex lubricants).

If you decide to try a silicone product, then your next decision will be about which one to buy. This can be quite challenging, since there are many different brands of silicone lubricants for intercourse on the market. Our advice would be to go with a simple one that has no additives, and which also represents good value for money. Our favorite choice is to use own brand products from the sex toys store " Babeland." They sell a good one called "Babelubes silicone." their products feel like they are designed for women's benefit and safety as well as men and women's sexual pleasure for intercourse!

By the way, in case you're wondering about safety, silicone lubricants cannot pass into the bloodstream and are quite safe (unlike silicone breast implants).

If you're still a little bit dubious about the benefits of silicone lubricants you might want to try a water-based lubricant for intercourse. Unfortunately, you will find the choice of these products even more bewildering than the choice of silicone-based lubricants.

First and foremost avoid products with glycerin or other sweetening agents which can seriously disrupt the acid / alkali balance of the vagina and promote yeast infection. You might also want to avoid any lubricants for intercourse which contain Nonoxynol-9, a spermicide and contraceptive jelly ingredient, which can be extremely irritating to the lining of the vagina and anus. It can actually cause tiny little tears in the lining of the vagina and anus and therefore may actually promote transmission of HIV.

Overall, once again we recommend Babeland as suppliers because their product range does not include any lubricants or condoms with Nonoxynol 9 as an ingredient.

Even after dismissing products with glycerin and Nonoxynol-9, you're left with a bewildering choice, but essentially the difference between the various sex lubes comes down to whether they are "natural", how thick they are, and whether or not they are flavored.

We would personally avoid any product that contained organic paraben molecules (compounds used as preservatives) because there is some evidence that parabens are carcinogenic.

So, if you're looking for something that is completely natural, then you need to buy a product that is branded as "natural" or "organic": these tend to be made from vegetable products that are known to be safe and have not been tested on animals. Note that this may include plant oils, and as such you may not be able to use a latex condom with them. Examples include Babeland Naturals Organic lubricant, and Sliquid Organics, and Firefly natural lubricant (which is an updated version of the first certified organic lube to be made in the United States, originally called Nude), and a product range called Yes!, made from Aloe Vera (Yes! also have an oil based range - made from natural plant oils, that is).

There are plenty of other lubricants for intercourse available which contain greater or lesser amounts of chemicals that promote slipperiness, water retention, or act as preservatives. Whether or not you object to these depends partly on personal choice, and, more practically, on whether or not these products produce an adverse reaction when you use them.

One of the most commonly known products is called Astroglide, which contains polypropylene glycol; there's nothing inherently wrong with this; as we say, it's a matter of personal choice, and it's a popular product which is both effective and safe (it uses grapefruit extract as a preservative).

Apart from the need to refresh some of the water-based lubricants during intercourse with a spray of water every so often, one of the facts that you might need to take into account when making your choice of lube for lovemaking is how much sensation you're able to achieve when you use any of these lubricants for intercourse. Vaginal lubricant, though slippery, is somewhat thin; the thicker the product, the more likely that sensation will be dulled: this may not matter during anal intercourse, where persistent and thick lubricant is probably a real bonus, but it may matter significantly during vaginal intercourse, where you don't want your pleasure to be dulled by an excessively slippery product.

Friction produces feeling! Slipperiness promotes pleasure - but only up to a point. When a woman is naturally "too" lubricated her man loses the pleasant feeling of sliding his glans penis against her vaginal walls - excessive lube can have the same effect. If this is a problem for you, then start with one of the thinner lubricants like Astroglide or Babelands Natural.

Why Do You Need Lubricants For Intercourse?

The best answer is undoubtedly to use a lubricant for intercourse. They are the quickest, simplest and probably the most effective solution to vaginal dryness, no matter what the cause. This can be hormonal or mood related, or stress-related, or even just the way girl is made. Let's focus here on solution rather than cause: vaginal lubricants can ease your way to a great time whenever you need them. In addition, they can serve to prolong love-making when a girl dries up during extended sex, and they can make masturbation much more comfortable for a man who's been circumcised.

An unexpected benefit of lube - and plenty of it - is that the reduced friction of penis in vagina during thrusting can help to make a man control his ejaculation and give him the gift of lasting longer in bed than he normally would. Good for guys with premature ejaculation, I guess.

Finally, even if you don't think you need lubrication for sexual intercourse, was asked you may well be delighted at the sensation if you try it. And that's not only when you're wanting a quickie with minimal foreplay – if you have a girl who takes a long time to get juicy, lubricants for intercourse can make the job much easier for both of you.

There are three main categories of lube today: water-based, silicon-based, and oil-based. It's obvious that you can never use an oil-based lubricant with a condom, since it'll destroy the fabric of the condom very quickly. Avoid things like Crisco or Vaseline, because they stick around too long and they are very hard to remove from intimate tissue. The only kind of oil based lubes we can recommend are gentle oils like sweet almond oil. In any case because of the properties we've already mentioned, oil-based lubes of any kind are strictly for intimate couples who are committed to each other and know each other's sexual history. Another factor to beware of is that oil inside the vagina is not helpful for some women – it can promote vaginal infection if she's a susceptible type. Otherwise, gentle oil based lubes can be very helpful in promoting great intercourse.

The most popular lubes come in the water-based category, because they don't affect tissue, and they're easy to wash off with, surprisingly enough, just a little warm water and maybe some soap. However, they do tend to dry out, although you can get over this by just having a little water at hand to reapply when they begin to dry up. Alternatively of course, you can just reapply the lubricant. However, interrupting sex to apply more water all lubricant might not be the most romantic thing for either you or your girl, so it's worth keeping that drawback in mind. Naturally enough, water-based lubricant for intercourse has the advantage being completely compatible with all condoms. You'll need to watch out for those that contain glycerin, because, like oil-based lubricants, that's a product that can promote infection in susceptible women.

There are a number of water-based lubricants had been on the market some time, and the most popular amongst them is Astroglide. This is a little bit thin but it's certainly very slippery and its long-lasting, and it's widely available. In fact, if you've never tried lube before, this is the one to start with. For those who want something more long-lasting and thicker, there's a product called Maximus, which is probably a good one to use if you're into anal pleasure and you need plenty of lube that has lots of staying power.

There's a product called "Yes, Yes, Yes!" – a name which doesn't leave much to the imagination, I guess! However it has aloe vera in and therefore its popular with holistic health fans. Another one we recommend is called "O'My", which may be a corny name but the product has the advantage of being completely organic whilst still maintaining good slipperiness and comparatively long-lasting lubrication power. If you are worried about artificial chemicals and additives, this is certainly the product for you! Overall, it's probably just as good as Astroglide. Another popular product is called "Wet", which is again like Astroglide quality and comes in  various flavors, which makes it great for oral sex.

Have you heard of "Slippery stuff gel"? It falls somewhere in the marketplace between Astroglide and Maximus: again, whether it's right for you as a lubricant for intercourse is just personal preference, so it's worth trying out if you have any doubts about any of the other products.

We don't recommend the old favorite KY jelly, simply because it dries out far too quickly. In any case, it was designed for medical use such as gynecological examinations, not for sexual intercourse. If you use a lubricant for intercourse, choose one that was made for that purpose!

So finally, what about silicone-based lubes? Well, there much longer lasting water-based lubes, but they are also much greasier. They're safe with condoms, and you can even use them underwater. However, some people really don't like them because they have such a greasy quality – again, it's a matter of personal preference. The most common varieties are "Wet Platinum" and "Eros Body Glide".

Just one final point to make: the only oil-based lube you might want to try is called "Men's Cream" which is a perfect lube for solo pleasure if you're  a man and you need something to make your hand glide more easily while you self pleasure.

What We Aim To Do – Lubricants For Intercourse, Lube For Sexual Intercourse

Also, men and women who enjoy extended Tantric sex or prolonged lovemaking may find that G spot stimulation is a lot easier if they use a supplement to a woman's natural lube.

Finally, men who have been circumcised may find that sex is more pleasurable for both them and their female partner if they add a little lubricant for intercourse to the head of the penis before lovemaking begins. This is because the foreskin acts as a seal to preserve a woman's natural vaginal secretions, whereas the glans penis on a circumcised man can act more like a piston, and remove the secretions from the vagina as the man thrusts during lovemaking.

But whatever situation you're in, we will give you all the information you need and a variety of suggestions about which products may be most helpful.